The Balancing Act of Dumping Yourself

Ah [exhale], the unassuming who fall head over heels...

"You are such a great person...BUT I'm scared because you're so perfect and I know I'm going to be really busy..."

If you have ever heard something like that know this: they don't like you. 

STORY: I really liked this girl in Seattle. She was just fantastic. She was bright, fun, beautiful, the sister of my best friend (who's approval I had)...just awesome. But the problem: well, she lived in Seattle (not a shot at the city, per se...but on the other hand...yeah, it is). 

We talked every night on the phone after school and work, we texted during the day and emailed when we had spare moments on the computer. I ended up driving up to Seattle to go on a few dates with her and she came to Utah to see me. 

It ended up not being the right fit and she has since met a great guy...but the point is, that DESIRE DICTATES DISCRETIONARY TIME (+3).

Think of it this way, there is a see-saw where all of the reasons to date you are on one side and the reasons not to date you are on the other. It will either tip one way or the other. And when it tips the other, know that you deserve better, as I have said before. 

You deserve someone who WANTS to date you and whose fear and schedule far under-weigh your awesomeness. And remember not to hate them for their feelings, In some way, we are all subjects to our emotions. So just keep an eye open to know when to dump yourself.

(AND remember not to judge too soon. Sometimes, we jump the gun and think that they should know us well enough to decide. Saying that you are "Ready" too soon could end up with more than a hurt heart.)

But in the final analysis, we don't choose whom we love, we just choose whom we allow our hearts to try to love...but that is a whole other blog post.