You pick her up and she is stunning--even better than you remember her a few days ago at that bonfire (It is a good thing too because we all have been there where we get someone's number with poor lighting...). The conversation flows and you almost can hear the string quartet playing as you watch her walk down the isle.
You go home and feel like there is nothing that can stop you now! 'How could a date have gone that well with such an amazing person?'
The standard 24 hours are endured before sending a text. 'Maybe a movie this weekend? Or lunch tomorrow? Oh, I can't wait. Frozen yogurt RIGHT NOW!' Draft the text. "Hey you! What are you doing? Let's go grab frozen yogurt!" You press send. Time sent, 9:02pm.
'She's probably asleep.'
'She's probably been at work.'
'She probably didn't get my text.'
"HEY! How was ur day?" Time sent, 11:03.
Next day you get a response, "Oh hey, just saw your text. My phone was broken." Received next day 8:30pm.
You wait 5 min and pool together a clever response, "At least something more important wasn't broken! ;-)" Time sent, 8:35pm.
You should have kept the emot icon to yourself (and yes...those stupid faces are called "emot icons").
"What" (Received 9:00pm)
Not even the concern to add a "?" to the text.
You try to rebound. "Nvmnd. But when can we get together?" Time sent, 9:02pm.
The cycle of reality:
Rinse. Repeat. Rejected.
WHY WHY WHY??? Why don't good first dates turn into second dates (that, according The Balancing Act post, are difficult in and of themselves)?
Maybe she started dating someone, maybe she heard something from a roommate, maybe she read your blog.
This post is not for the purpose of presenting answers, but to let you know that it happens. It happens to everyone...and it is okay. Keep to the three point rule and know when to stop communicating with them.
But what you really need to know is this: if someone doesn't fall in love with you as you do with them--it isn't that you are wrong, it is that you are wrong for them. And in the end, they are wrong for you. (heck, i guess in the beginning, in this case) There will be someone just as excited to see a text from you pop up on their phone as you are. And then, even if you do dumb things (like add a nose on your winkey face in texting), you can follow the cycle of love: