|I had to stretch to make this pic fit with the post...but too funny!|
So we've all been in the situation where we meet two people pretty close together and we start to like both. So what to do?
To start we need to lay the groundwork assumption which I hold to be true, that you can only give your heart to one person at a time, and that is a decision you make. You can hook up with multiple people at the same time (which I will ALWAYS under ANY situation say is a huge NONO), but your heart will remain with one person.
But if you are in the process of deciding, what should you do?
Sometimes it can be a deadlock.
One is smarter, the other is funnier. One is a little prettier, the other is a little better at social situations. One is more passionate, the other has more direction. One is secure, the other is adventurous. One is really nice, the other is a little sassy.
Keep it simple. Don't just look at how you feel about that person, but look at how you feel about YOURSELF.
Don't worry about choosing the hotter one or the better kisser or the one with the better resume or cooler friends....because in the end, when all of that melts away, it exposes the core of any relationship: how you feel about yourself when you are around and not around that person.
And as my dear confidant who, earlier this year was choosing between two girls who wanted to mary him and who's advice I rarely heed, advises, "DO NOT wait too long to decide because it will damage the relationship with whomever you choose and you will die lonely." (I took some liberties with the end of his quote...)
Who inspires you? Makes you feel like a better person? Who doesn't make you feel like just some puppet or accessory? That is the seed of a great relationship. And if you put yourself into it and it is right, love will come.
For love is a magic potion that is concocted in the kitchen of decision with a little bit of help from the laboratory of luck.
(oh, and as my for dear confidant, he waited too long to decide and hence, is not dating either of those girls--but he IS almost engaged to a third. ...maybe I should take his advice.)