My friend who was in the midsts of a "break" recently defined it very clearly: "it's like when you don't talk to each other. Unless you want to...i guess(?)."
People, people people-- what is this "break" mess all about? It is the worst state you can be in. You might break down when you break up...but to just "break.' TERRIBLE idea. One heart is aching while the other is stringing along. It seems odd to even call is "break." Maybe it's actually spelled "brake'...? (ya know what, for the purposes of this post, I'll try a few different spellings and see what fits best.)
It's like "gression" where it isn't pro- or re-...it just is.
I say if you are taking a brayk, give the person you are on a braik with more credit than just to tell them you need a brajck. Tell them why.
And not this, 'i'm not sure' crap or 'I prayed and don't feel right about it', but real reasons. (I have to say, I can't believe God is so interested in making my dating life miserable that He has told as many girls as have used the "prayer" excuse not to date me. I think there is enough He has to worry about than answering some half-hearted "What should I do?" prayer when the real question is "can I dump him yet?". But I digress(....only slightly.))
So in the end, take a breijk when you are ready to end it for good and don't just lead them on.
(And after reading this over...none of the spellings seem to fit. They all just seem so wrong...)
I agree. Taking a break is a pretty big sign of a lack of commitment. If you really need some time to think about a relationship, actually break up, and give yourself the real room you need to think clearly. If the relationship was supposed to work, there will be a second chance to get back together. Don't belabor a relationship that needs breaking and don't cause damage to a perfectly healthy one.
ReplyDeletei've done the "break" thing. It sucks. Majorly. I will never just take a break again. It was pointless.
ReplyDeleteI agree 100%. Either you're together or you are not. Why waste your time, their time, and the time of others that are interested in you? Breaks - solve - nothing. They just procrastinate the inevitable. Either you are going to work out the problem or the relationship is going to end.
ReplyDeleteHow 'bout if people said - We shattered it? A break can be fixed with a little glue or the right words or the right gift, but once it's shattered you can only sweep it up and throw it out.
ReplyDeleteAmen to that!!! I am so sick of the 'break' word. Its about time someone explained why it is simply so ridiculous. Next is the whole reason for the dumb 'brake'. If ONE MORE BOY tells me its what Heavenly Father told him what to do I will go into cardiac shock! Why is Heavenly Father so determined to ruin my dating life? .... That is one question that lingers on and off in my mind for years now.
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