Getting Over Someone and Polar Bears

Getting over someone is like trying to not think of polar bears. The harder you try to do it, the harder it becomes to do it. Think about it (nonoNO, not about polar bears, about the concept).

What is the only way NOT to think about polar bears? By thinking about SOMETHING ELSE (like two soft cuddly polar bears...nope...still on polar bears. h'm, well i can't think of anything other than polar bears off the top of my head--but you get the point). So too with love and dating. The more you find other things with which to occupy your mind and heart, the less you will focus on the person you are not trying to focus on. Seems simple in theory, but let's take it to metaphorical theory. 

Here is the deal: the heart is like a piece of putty. It is malleable, moldable, mush-able (4 point alliteration). When someone comes into your life and you allow them into you heart, they leave their distinct impression on your heart with theirs. When their heart leaves, the impression stays. The trouble is, you know that no matter how long and how far you search, you will never find someone to fill that gap just the same.

And while that it true, it doesn't have to be depressing.

BUT, getting over someone is realizing that there is a better fit. You need to smooth the edges left behind and open your heart for another's to come in. And then, when their heart and your heart have molded together, you can look back and with fondness respect the love that you had with another while not worrying about it ever coming back.

Or you can do as I do and just imagine a polar bear ripping their head off. Either way works fine.

My 25th’s Year Advice: BUSINESS PARTNERS

This year's piece of advice is about business partners. After thinking about the best business relationships I have had this last year in my efforts to start a company, I have come up with a three attributes of a great business partner:

1.     Innovation. Can they take your idea and make it better? Do they have a mind to reach further and to help inspire you to do the same?

2.     Communication: Can they express those ideas clearly? Are they honest with you about what they are doing? Are they fun to talk to about non-business stuff?

3.     Dependability-ation: Do they do what they say they will do when they say they will do it? Are they consistent (in things like eithics, work, ryming, etc.)?

In the last year, those people who have worked with me that have those three attributes have made my life so much better and have pushed my dreams from a good idea to a solid concept to a great plan to an amazing start-up business.

And one last word about business partners—make God the majority voice in every major decision you make. It doesn’t mean to get on your knees for every choice, but rather keep a prayer in your heart and council with Him when you feel He has an opinion. And then TAKE HIS ADVICE. 

He is smarter than you.