Why You Should NOT Take People's Advice in Dating

My buddy was telling this girl, with whom i was flirting, about my blog (never a good idea, I've come to realize...unless you are my buddy trying to pick up on the girl i'm...wait a second....BLAST! Foiled again by a wingman!), and he said he is a devoted reader. She asked if he was dating anyone and he replied, 'No, but I'm following this guy's every word of advice [overly awkward thumb point towards me], so I know I'm on the right path.' 

I looked at him...

in disgust. 

And not just because of the superfluous gesticulations, but let me tell you my friends, if you are taking "every word of advice" on this blog or from anyone else, you are nowhere near the right path (unless that path is the well trodden dirt road leading to the rope swing of loneliness...in which case, keep going straight until you hit the Squaw Peak parking lot and then hand right at the frozen yogurt shop on every block and then look kitty corner from the hot tub I live in--that's where it begins).

And while, there are some gems of wisdom that your trusted dating advisors will tell you, 1 out of 1 dating doctors will tell you these two pieces of advice: you are not them and they are not you.

You are not them: Their story, their situation and their happily (n)ever after are uniquely theirs. True love is like a snowflake because (...it dies when it touches me) each one is different than any other. So take their advice with a grain of snow melt. And realize that, while for them, the proverbial 'symbol' of love worked like a charm, it might produce adverse affects if attempted to duplicate.

They are not you: here is the truth I have come to realize in my meaning(full/less (this is a choose your own adjective adventure sentence)) meanderings (+3) through dating is that eventually, the other person is going to have to get to know you. The more advice you take, the less they are dating you, but rather a conglomerate of the bits of advice you have gotten from everyone else. Just be yourself. If they like you, they will realize it faster; if they don't, you will get over it faster. 

So take advice, but take it in doses and take only when needed. And THAT advice is OTC (off the chain)!