I don't know how many times I walked into my apartment from a first date or the hot tub or even the parking lot of king henry and said, "I've met the one!"
Maybe it is the hundreds of dates I've been on that have created this love child born of Nicolas Sparks romance and Judith McNaught snapshots, but perhaps I was right most of the time. While on the surface two compatible colors can combine to comprise a ascetically captivating collective--it is the fabric, the tapestry, the core that really constitutes cohesion. I don't care how good pink and black look, if it is seersucker and silk--stop. Stop it now.
Here's the problem: I don't know what I don't know! I only know what I've been told I don't know...and just that is daunting. So I did what any self respecting guy would do in this situation, I went to google (with the filter on "moderate"). Two websites I found that were pretty interesting provided me with introspective assessments to seduce my ignorance into indulgence. One was (obviously) from Oprah and the other from GalaMind.
Oprah's website provides a bunch of questions to ask before marriage. A similar site is a little easier to read, but has similar questions (but 276 of them). Great questions to consider while contemplating continual compatibility. Some questions you should save until right before marriage though ;).
The other seemed at first a little like hocus pocus, but on looking into it further I realized that GalaMind.com afforded some really interesting tools to assess personal perspectives on couples' condition. You click these geometric shapes and it will help provide insights to a relationship and even suggest specific things to do to help out. They call it Kinetic Intelligence. I call it 'whatever they call it.' Now while I don't usually pay for these kind of assessments, I found the YOU ME US tool to be pretty cool. It gave me some things to think about for myself that even Oprah couldn't. The narrator has a great voice, the insights are pretty interesting and the results have given me something to think about.
As I have always been told, in our house of life, the biggest room should always be the room for improvement. (Now while I feel it should be the hot tub room, I guess since I want an outdoor hot tub, it still works.) So as I've been seeking to learn the things that I don't know I don't know yet, maybe these two websites could help you on the same journey.
Unless you've arrived...and even then, I think you don't even know you have.