Let's talk about sex...and not having it...until you should. Glad we had this chat. Now go clean your room.
Okay but really, I am going to talk about sex (and how most of what I have learned was taught in 4th grade health class and bachelor party stories).
Recently, I made the comment on Fb/Tw about still being a virgin and apparently many people feel that a never-been-married 26 year old guy shouldn't be. Well I am here to tell you that you don't need sex parties or niche porn to live a fulfilling and happy life ('BWAAAAA?'). I have made a personal choice to wait to have any sexual activity until after marriage.
Let me tell you why. Disagree, you may (Yoda imagery during sex talk....I retract).
I think sex is special. So special, in fact, that I don't believe that sex should be had outside of marriage.
Many of my friends tell me I'm crazy. 'You can't buy a car without a test drive. You can't know if there is chemistry without sex! Do you want bad sex for the rest of your life?'
That is the dumbest thing I've ever heard. It is like saying, 'You don't want going to the moon to be bad.' Scenario: I'm going to the moon. I've never been. I'm pretty sure whatever it is is going to be pretty cool. So chill your overactive jet packs. If it is the only I've ever had, it will be the best.
Now as for the chemistry. Let me ask you non-virgins out there (and based on the number of bored housewives waiting for their kid to wake up and divorced ex girlfriends who read this blog, I'm guessing that number is pretty high)...have you ever kissed someone before having sex with them? Have you ever held someone's hand before kissing them before having sex with them? Yes on both accounts?
Have you ever held someone's hand and felt a spark?
Kissed them and felt a spark?
Had sex with them...and NOT felt that same spark? that chemistry? that je ne sais pas quoi (as they say in America)?
NO! The answer has always, will always and is always no.
Now you go telling me about this 'it physically needs to work' stuff and all....but what it really comes down to...is chemistry.
So, I submit this post to you as a reason that sex before marriage is not needed, is a perfectly sane choice and does not prove anything about chemistry that cannot be deduced through other ways, such as kissing or even holding hands.
THAT being said...I do not want you to think that I think that people who think differently are bad people, but rather I am tired of people calling me ignorant for my personal decision. I know the moon is there. I will get there. But I will share that whole world with one person.
p.s. do you know how difficult it is to google image something for a post like this and NOT be into niche porn? There are some things the safe filter just won't handle.